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I’m afraid of my partner.

If someone is hurting you or making you scared, it is not your fault!  Domestic violence is about power and control – it isn’t about your behavior or feelings.  You can’t fix it or stop the abuse.  The batterer is responsible for their behavior – and ONLY they can change their behavior.

There is help available:

What do I do if someone I know is being abused?

  • Don’t judge.  A victim already feels put-down by the abuser.
  • Listen.  Tell the victim it is not their fault.  There is help available.
  • Be unconditional in your support, or the victim may not use your help again – which assists the abuser in further isolating the victim.
  • It is ok to be honest and supportive, but do not tell the victim what to do – that is just as controlling as the abuser.
  • Help the victim identify a support system:  friends, family, DVS, etc.
  • Be patient.  Leaving is a long and difficult process to break free:  victims may leave and return many times.  One of the most important supportive acts you can do is to always be there – unconditionally.

Learn more about how to help a loved one who is being abused.

If you are abusing your partner:

Take responsibility for your behavior and make a commitment to change.   Call UW hotline at 1-800-MEN-1089 – the Men’s Domestic Abuse Check-Up is a project for men 18 and older who are concerned or have mixed feelings about their behaviors toward their partner.

Get perpetrator treatment from a registered perpetrator intervention provider.

Learn more about perpetrator treatment, if counseling help and how you can know if he is changing.

Help mentor young male athletes and promote positive messages of honor and respect!

The Mariners are competing against other MLB teams for a $200,000 Pepsi Refresh Grant. Their idea is to team up with the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence to mentor young male athletes and promote positive messages of honor and respect.

Remember vote 10 times everyday from every computer and text 10 times from every cell phone!

TEXT: “Mariners” to 76462

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